Random talk about girls...

During dinner, my friends and I were talking about a documentary about this boy who committed suicide. Apparently, the boy was teased over the internet, being called a loser repeatedly. Besides that a girl in school expressed interest in him to tell him in the end that it was a joke. Similar events finally drove him to a point where he could no longer see the diginity in living life, and he ended his life.

We were talking - The emphasis on things will kill people. Most of the things are not evil in itself. For example: Beauty is a wonderful thing. However, when beauty is emphasized, within our human understanding, beauty is most magnified in physical appearance. Beauty being magnified, what happens to those who are not so beautiful looking? Possessions? Talents?

Slowly and surely, whenever we praise somebody of being more beautiful, of being richer, or of being better off than some other people - we strip true dignity of living off other people, in the process convincing ourselves that we are a ∑ (sum) of external things.

C.S Lewis puts it well. People are not proud of being rich or beautiful. They are proud of being richer and more beautiful. The issue is that in today's world, it is very hard to praise one person, and also think of the feelings of others around - so as to not make them feel inferior.

The outrageous cry for approval informs us that the major part of humanity has lost their dignity. If we had our dignity, the approval of others ought to have a significantly less impact on much of ourbehaviour.

We were just browsing through a "famous blogger" - which I found that the reason is because she is physically appealing. How.... Surprising.

"Surely she has negligible value on the inside," I said

"Maybe she is pretty on the outside and even kinder on the outside?" my friend said.

Is that possible? Look at all her photos - she is all out to flaunt. I doubt she has any other thing that she is proud of besides her face. Or else she would have displayed it.

Mathematically, in our society - due to the fault of everybody, influenced by the many people - the hope that a physically appealing girl leading a good life where there is a good balance in life is like limits approaching 0.

We ought to campaign against superficiality. If the population could be 1% less superficial and place less emphasis on externals. It is like petrol prices going down by a dollar per litre. The price of everything will drop. Inflation would go down. There would be more money to be given away to those who truly need it.

We would need less advertisements for donation. Honestly, I really think that most of the cosmetic companies shouldn't exist.

For every RM100 you are paying, more than half the money was used for advertising - to get better celebrities to promote it. So that you would be convinced. How vain. Oh - Ecclesiastes was being preached.

How meaningless.

The bad part is that I am affected like all of us. And for all of us, it is really bad. It seems that our hearts are somewhat inclined to think that the truly meaningless we are involved in are somewhat meaningful.

This is the good part about not being in politics at the moment. When I am not in politics, I can say that some industries should just die off. When I am in politics, I will have to learn hwo to work out the most beneficial/effective compromise.

Politicians - I pity some of them. When they have to work out what is most practical, they can be accused of compromising on their values - these people deserve more support. Well, the others are just greedy.

To my physically blessed friends - let us emphasize on other things which do not tear people down in the process when we praise. Let us praise whatever that is good, lovely, encouraging, supportive - let us praise good attitudes, noble deeds and sacrifices.

In the process, I trust that the more we praise such things - we see that we ourselves lack so much in these areas that we will be humble in the end to know our shortcomings.

Humble people are more well loved. Humble people learn much more in life. Humble people enjoy more even when they have less. Humble people don't get stressed as much over the things that the proud do so often.

Instead of sharing beauty tips -

I'm serious. Before this post ends, I'm really saying that if you wish to do something good and right, you ought to praise certain thigns and regard the others as nothing. Think of it, how meaningless can guys and girls be.

To be very blatant, so many elements are driving girls to emphasize their shell and not whatever that is inside - of course, there are little bits mentioned to quieten the conscience...How much effort, time, or energy left do they have to build up what is inside?

And guess who becomes the female's number 1 cheerleader. Shame on me.

Some of us might say, I am not being like that. I don't emphasize on such things. I just praise them once in a blue moon.

Or some of you think that you are being neutral.

But being neutral in a negative flow, what does that make you?

When you are given a breath and strength to fight what is crooked and you refuse to exercise that right - what does that make you?

There are things that guys are built to do. And I have a wierd idea that cheering the negative flow is not one of our original functions.

P.S. I still appreciate your beautiful physical appearance. I just can't stand you as a whole.

I am not saying that the cry of public approval will decrease even if we successfully achieve this. I'm saying that should we achieve this, we will at least cry for something good. There is a saying that " Sometimes the worst thing that can happen to us is to get what we want". That is what happens when we want superficial stuff.

Continuously approving and emphasizing on things that holds little value if not producing negative effect - gives us a junk food appetite. It makes us full, for a while - then we are empty again. Slowly and surely, it slowly kills us. I am not surprised if we are all in one way or another walking down the path that the boy who committed suicide suffered from others.